Congratulations, you’re finally ready to pop the question! Now, one of the key elements of any proposal is the ring, and getting the correct size can be tricky, especially if you want to keep the proposal a surprise. Don’t worry, though; below are a few tips and tricks to discreetly get your partner’s ring size without them suspecting a thing.
Five Ways to Secretly Measure Ring Size
1. Borrow a ring
This is the most classic method for secretly getting your partner’s ring size. First, pay attention to what rings your partner wears on their left ring finger. That will ensure the best fit. Then, when your partner isn’t around, borrow the ring and trace its inner circumference onto a piece of paper or press the ring into a soft piece of air-dry clay to create an impression. You can also print our at-home ring sizer to measure the borrowed ring more accurately. If you used one of the first two methods, take the paper or clay to a jeweler who can help you determine the size. Note: if you’re using clay, make sure you don’t leave any clay residue on the ring to avoid suspicion.
2. Enlist friends or family members
Request the help of your partner’s loved ones. They may know your partner’s ring size or could find out through subtle conversation. And one step better, ask them to take your partner engagement ring shopping. That way, your partner can be professionally sized and possibly drop a hint about what styles they like!
3. Gift a ring for another occasion
This method requires planning, but gift your partner a ring for a birthday or anniversary. Either ask for their ring size or take them jewelry shopping and have them try on fashion rings in addition to earrings, necklaces, etc., to throw them off. That way, you will know your partner’s ring size when it comes time to pick out an engagement ring.
4. Team up with an engaged friend
If you and your partner are close with someone who is engaged, discreetly ask that engaged friend to let your partner try on their engagement ring. This method will at least put you in a ballpark size range. Your partner might even disclose their ring size if the engaged friend’s ring doesn’t fit. This situation also creates the perfect opportunity to see what your partner thought of your friend’s engagement ring to help you figure out what engagement ring style your partner prefers.
5. Get a temporary setting
If the surprise element is becoming stressful or overcomplicated, consider a temporary setting. At Brilliant Earth, you can pick your perfect diamond and pair it with a temporary white gold solitaire setting. Then, propose with the temporary ring and make a showroom appointment within 60 days of your initial purchase. Your partner will be able to return the setting at the appointment and choose a new setting of their choice.
6. Consult a jewelry expert
Jewelers are seasoned professionals in ring sizing and can offer expert advice for your situation. Visit one of our showrooms to consult with a specialist; they’re more than happy to help.
What to Avoid When You’re Trying to Measure Ring Size Secretly
- Don’t borrow a random ring: Sizes differ from finger to finger, so make sure to borrow a ring that you know fits on your partner’s left ring finger.
- Don’t borrow one of their favorite rings: Make sure to borrow a ring your partner won’t know is missing.
- Don’t be obvious: Avoid direct questions about ring size; subtlety is key.
- Don’t involve too many people: Enlisting help can be beneficial, but involving too many people increases the risk of the surprise being spoiled.
- Don’t behave unusually: Maintain natural behavior to prevent your partner from becoming suspicious.
- Don’t overcomplicate things: While being resourceful is important, overcomplicating things can lead to unnecessary stress and confusion. Stick to simple and discreet methods.
- Don’t forget to double-check: Double-check your measurements to ensure accuracy. Better safe than sorry!
Looking for More Information?
Find our free ring sizer, printable ring size chart, tips, and step-by-step methods to help you find the perfect ring size here.
You Got This!
Remember, the most important thing is the sentiment behind the proposal, so try not to stress too much. With some planning and creativity, you’ll be well on your way to pulling off the perfect surprise proposal. Good luck!
Still trying to plan your proposal? Check out our proposal guides: Marriage Proposal 101, Best Places to Propose in the USA, Valentine’s Day Proposal Guide, Christmas Proposal Guide, New Year’s Proposal Guide
My fiance took me to a ring store in the mall “spontaneously” and asked them to size me “for fun”, then he didn’t propose for another year and a half. Very tricky!
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Hi Zach, we offer one complimentary resizing for our standard ring styles with free shipping both ways within 60 days of shipment to our US, Canadian, UK, and Australian customers. Please note our eternity rings cannot be resized due to their design. Custom, modified, and engraved rings are subject to resize fees. You can find more information on our return and exchange policies here: https://www.brilliantearth.com/30-Day-Returns/. Thanks for your interest!
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Hi Timothy, please fill out the form on the top of this page by clicking “Request Ring Sizer”. If you are having trouble, please contact our jewelry specialists at 1.800.691.0952 or through the live chat on our site. Thanks for your interest!
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Or, if your girl is into scented candles, tell her it’d be fun to get her one of the “candles with a ring in them” (FragrantEarth, etc.) and tell her you need her ring size to order it. It’s not quite as obvious a move as buying a ring all by itself, since it’s about the candle as much as the ring. Worked for me!
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And yeah, discuss rings early in the relationship, then file the info for later use, if possible. That way, you’ll also know the styles she likes and if she has certain expectations of size or doesn’t even care for diamonds, etc.
Actually, the ring size/shoe size thing does typically hold true… Except it’s your size in MEN’S shoes! (Usually about two sizes smaller than your typical women’s shoe size). Also, bear in mind that “fashion” shoes, like similar clothing, tend to vary somewhat wildly in sizing, so it’s best to use a winter boot or athletic shoe for this purpose. Good luck!
Nancy Drew is right. Let her pick the ring. She’s going to wear this on her hand ever day for the rest of her life.
You can still make the proposal a surprise, with or without the ring.
Or a “surprise” will ruin what should be a happy time.
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I’m dreaming. These rings are beautiful and would look perfect on my size 7.5 finger.
Im sorry but I hate that everyone is dictating about others opinions. Whether or not its true. I know that my husband asked me on our third date. He asked, Baby, what kind of rings do you like? I answered. When I was in Walmart with him I tried on some of their rings and that’s when he got my ring size. All that youran has to do is be a spy, really. He’ll surprise with your ring. Mine wasn’t expensive. I know that a woman on here said she hated her ring. If its a 3,000$ ring I wouldn’t hate it. Mine was really cheap. I’m sorry but it shouldn’t matter how much it is. What should matter was that he became brave enough to ask you for your hand. My husband for the longest time has put himself down for buying me a cheap ring. I have told him that I love him and that’s all.
I came here hoping to leave with some insight. The first two suggestions are really awful ?
Why not offer to buy her a small promise ring of greater things to come. I know I LOVED my promise ring when I got it, but if she is eager, she will give you the facts you need!
Diane-
I work in jewelry and I can tell you that women’s shoe sizes have NOTHING to do with ring sizes.
Myself as an example wear a 5.75 ring and a 9.5 shoe. If I tried to wear a 9.5 ring on my ring finger it would fall off
The shoe vs ring is NOT TRUE… I wear a size 8 shoe and a 6 ring. No.
NancyDrew you could have sold it if you really wanted. You should be grateful you even got a ring and that someone would marry you!! Some of us aren’t that lucky!!
Please let her pick her own ring. My ring was so awful. The store wouldn’t take it back and the owner showed me 3 even worse ones. The 3,000 ring stayed in a drawer for 15 years until the cleaning lady stole it. It should be a Class A Felony to allow an unescorted man into a jewelry store!
Please let her pick her own ring! I got an awful ring. The store wouldn’t take it back. A $3,000 ring spent 15 years in a drawer until it was pilfered by a cleaning lady!
Hi John,
If you are far away from her, you could ask one of her friends or family members for her ring size. If none of them know it, you could also enlist a friend or family member back home to try on one of her rings to compare ring sizes. Good luck! Our jewelry specialists would love to help you with any further questions and can be reached by calling 800.691.0952.
I am currently working in a differnt country.
My questions are:
1. Does it make sense if I send the ring despite we’re faraway to each other?
2. Which other way can I know her ring size apart from the listed ones above?
Who cares !
And now for the best answer…..her ring size is the same as her shoe size……(minus the narrow or wide). I know this sounds strange, but to my knowledge, this has always held true. So when she isn’t looking, check out one of her shoes…????
Hans…. sounds like you might have lost in love….. whether or not that’s true, don’t be so negative to the rest of us because of your experience….
I have a suggestion for all of you. How about you’ll all stop throwing your life away like that. Marriage these days is nothing but a business proposition – one that has the guy on the losing end of it. Are you really willing to do that? And then feel guilty for figuring out her ring size when you’re about to blow $50k on some carbon-based blingy stone?
My girlfreind is kind of a tomboy. She rarely ever wears jewelery other than the necklace i got her e while ago. Plus i don’t know what she’ll like. If she had a sister i would go to her, but her mom has about the same size hands… lol just because i posted this i now know what to do!
I read somewhere else that you can take a ring you know fits her and press it into a bar of soap. Take the soap to a jeweler.
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Find a pic (or take one in secret – perhaps while she’s sleeping) of her hand next to an object that can easily be measured. Then, in photoshop or some other image edit application, find the ratio between the object diameter and her finger diameter and multiply that by the diameter of the object. Once you know the diameter it’s just a simple calculation to get the circumference (pi x D). Obviously, for best results get as close as possible and use the best camera you can find.
There is one way not listed here…. Try on one of her rings. Make a mental note of where it stops on your finger. Go to a jeweler and try on sizer rings until one hits the same spot on your finger. There you go.
Why not just have one of her friends say something like hey can I borrow that ring its so pretty and being a good friend shed say yea but just give it back and BOOM you have a ring size
How about… I dunno, taking a ring she wears a lot and trace it on a piece of paper. (Inside of the circle and out)
How many of your friends know your ring size? Even better, ask the friend to take your girlfriend engagement ring shopping, REALLY? If one of your partner’s friends is engaged, ask her friend to let your girlfriend try on the ring? These are options for someone trying to buy a ring as a surprise? I have another one for you. Take your girlfriend to a wedding dress store and have her try one on, you know “for fun”. Then rent a white limo and drive her to a big church and have her walk down the isle, again just “for fun”. You see where this is going? Surprise…………………….
and did you know that the one thing that has measurements of the same between men and woman are ring szs.all you have to do too is measure your finger too and ask her to try on your ring.it will give you a ballpark figure also.