Brilliant Earth jewelry expert Jessica Anand is frequently asked by our customers about how to measure ring size without their partner knowing. Here we’ve shared some of Jessica’s best tips and tricks!
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1. Be Subtle
If you are absolutely set on a surprise proposal but you still want to find out their ring size directly from the source, ask your significant other in a very subtle, smooth way. If you’re proposing to your girlfriend, you can pretend, for example, that you are going to buy a ring for mom/sister/aunt/niece or even yourself. Make sure that this pretend recipient is someone whose hands are similar in size to your partner. Casually ask what her ring size is for reference. If you really want to beef up the ruse, purchase an inexpensive ring and show it to them. Have them try it on and everything to see if it is a comfort fit and the correct size. Maybe afterward you can actually give that ring to your mom/sister/aunt/niece to appease your guilty conscience!
2. Ask Their Friends
A great way to find out your partner’s ring size is to ask one of their friends. Friends occasionally have this insight! And, if the friend doesn’t know right away, he or she can be the one to ask (nonchalantly). Even better, ask the friend to take your partner engagement ring shopping “for fun.” Have them get professionally sized so that you know if your partner fits standard ring sizes or is more fit for a half size. It’s best to choose a friend who might have once had acting aspirations!
3. Borrow One of Their Rings
Another method is to snag one of their old rings for a day. You need to be careful with this method because it might backfire on you! Make sure that you grab a ring that your partner wears on a similarly sized finger, the ring finger of their right hand being the optimal choice. Even if you bring in a thumb ring we can usually come up with a close approximation of what size their ring finger will be. If you choose this option, make sure that you choose a ring that isn’t overly important to them and wouldn’t cause any emotional distress if they notice it missing!
4. Leave a Trace
If you are terrified of losing one of their rings try this method instead. Take one of their rings and place it on a piece of paper. Draw a circle on the inside and outside of the ring. Do this several times to make sure that your ring traces look consistent and can indicate the proper ring size. We can usually figure out the inner diameter of their ring from your sketch!
5. Enlist a Friend
If one of your partner’s friends is engaged, ask the friend to let your partner try on the ring. This will put you in a ballpark size range to start out with. You can also use this as an opportunity to ask what they thought of their friend’s engagement ring (in private) and try to do a little sleuthing as to what style of ring your partner would like for themselves.
6. Compare Fingers
This method is a little more difficult, but if you are desperate, go ahead and try it out! When you are holding their hand, see if one of their fingers is similar in size to a finger of yours. For example, their ring finger might be as big as your pinky. This method isn’t amazingly accurate, but the more information we have on their ring size the closer we can get!
7. Ask Your Partner!
There are some people in this world who like to do things the hard way, and then there are those who are very straightforward. If you and your partner have been discussing marriage for quite some time, ask them outright what their ring size is! Don’t worry though— you can still have the element of surprise. After all, they don’t know when you’re going to ask, or how! If your partner doesn’t know their ring size, they can find it using our printable ring sizing guide.
Keep in Mind:
The two most accurate ways to confirm ring size are to come in and have your partner sized by us in person or have them visit a local jeweler. Using one or several of the methods above will result in a very good approximation, but there is always the risk that it will be slightly off.
Please note that for custom designed rings, we highly recommend visiting a local jeweler or coming in and having their finger sized with us, as custom pieces are final sale and may not be able to be resized in the future. Err on a larger size so that it will be guaranteed to slip over the ring finger when you propose.
Interesting Ring Size Facts:
- Our dominant hands tend to be slightly bigger (so make sure you are measuring for their left!)
- The most common women’s ring size is 6 to 6.5.
- The most common men’s ring size is 10.
- Wider rings have a tighter fit than thinner bands, so if you borrow a ring for us to measure, try to make sure that it is the same width as the ring you plan on purchasing.
- Brilliant Earth is happy to ship you a free ring sizer, so that you can measure your ring size in the comfort of your home!
What if I just can’t figure out the size?
If you simply can’t figure out the size or you don’t want to risk it, consider choosing a temporary setting to propose with. Our temporary setting is our 18K White Gold 2mm Comfort Fit Ring. You have sixty days to propose, have your partner properly sized, and send the ring back. Once you have their perfect size, we can set your diamond in your ideal setting. This way they get to see the diamond you chose, but there isn’t the risk of having to resize the actual setting. Please contact us about this option, so we can explain the exact process to you! This is also a great option for those who don’t know whether to purchase an engagement ring before or after proposing. You can also chat with a Brilliant Earth representative live using the chat feature on the website for more assistance.
Good luck!
My fiance took me to a ring store in the mall “spontaneously” and asked them to size me “for fun”, then he didn’t propose for another year and a half. Very tricky!
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Hi Zach, we offer one complimentary resizing for our standard ring styles with free shipping both ways within 60 days of shipment to our US, Canadian, UK, and Australian customers. Please note our eternity rings cannot be resized due to their design. Custom, modified, and engraved rings are subject to resize fees. You can find more information on our return and exchange policies here: https://www.brilliantearth.com/30-Day-Returns/. Thanks for your interest!
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Hi Timothy, please fill out the form on the top of this page by clicking “Request Ring Sizer”. If you are having trouble, please contact our jewelry specialists at 1.800.691.0952 or through the live chat on our site. Thanks for your interest!
Hi Chad, please fill out the form on the top of this page by clicking “Request Ring Sizer”. Thanks for your interest!
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Hi Shari, you can get a ring sizer sent to you by filling out the form at the top of this post. Just click “Request Ring Sizer”. Thanks for reaching out!
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Or, if your girl is into scented candles, tell her it’d be fun to get her one of the “candles with a ring in them” (FragrantEarth, etc.) and tell her you need her ring size to order it. It’s not quite as obvious a move as buying a ring all by itself, since it’s about the candle as much as the ring. Worked for me!
Trying to propose without anyone knowing or saying anything
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You deserve it friend 🙂
And yeah, discuss rings early in the relationship, then file the info for later use, if possible. That way, you’ll also know the styles she likes and if she has certain expectations of size or doesn’t even care for diamonds, etc.
Actually, the ring size/shoe size thing does typically hold true… Except it’s your size in MEN’S shoes! (Usually about two sizes smaller than your typical women’s shoe size). Also, bear in mind that “fashion” shoes, like similar clothing, tend to vary somewhat wildly in sizing, so it’s best to use a winter boot or athletic shoe for this purpose. Good luck!
Nancy Drew is right. Let her pick the ring. She’s going to wear this on her hand ever day for the rest of her life.
You can still make the proposal a surprise, with or without the ring.
Or a “surprise” will ruin what should be a happy time.
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I’m dreaming. These rings are beautiful and would look perfect on my size 7.5 finger.
Im sorry but I hate that everyone is dictating about others opinions. Whether or not its true. I know that my husband asked me on our third date. He asked, Baby, what kind of rings do you like? I answered. When I was in Walmart with him I tried on some of their rings and that’s when he got my ring size. All that youran has to do is be a spy, really. He’ll surprise with your ring. Mine wasn’t expensive. I know that a woman on here said she hated her ring. If its a 3,000$ ring I wouldn’t hate it. Mine was really cheap. I’m sorry but it shouldn’t matter how much it is. What should matter was that he became brave enough to ask you for your hand. My husband for the longest time has put himself down for buying me a cheap ring. I have told him that I love him and that’s all.
I came here hoping to leave with some insight. The first two suggestions are really awful ?
Why not offer to buy her a small promise ring of greater things to come. I know I LOVED my promise ring when I got it, but if she is eager, she will give you the facts you need!
Diane-
I work in jewelry and I can tell you that women’s shoe sizes have NOTHING to do with ring sizes.
Myself as an example wear a 5.75 ring and a 9.5 shoe. If I tried to wear a 9.5 ring on my ring finger it would fall off
The shoe vs ring is NOT TRUE… I wear a size 8 shoe and a 6 ring. No.
NancyDrew you could have sold it if you really wanted. You should be grateful you even got a ring and that someone would marry you!! Some of us aren’t that lucky!!
Please let her pick her own ring. My ring was so awful. The store wouldn’t take it back and the owner showed me 3 even worse ones. The 3,000 ring stayed in a drawer for 15 years until the cleaning lady stole it. It should be a Class A Felony to allow an unescorted man into a jewelry store!
Please let her pick her own ring! I got an awful ring. The store wouldn’t take it back. A $3,000 ring spent 15 years in a drawer until it was pilfered by a cleaning lady!
Hi John,
If you are far away from her, you could ask one of her friends or family members for her ring size. If none of them know it, you could also enlist a friend or family member back home to try on one of her rings to compare ring sizes. Good luck! Our jewelry specialists would love to help you with any further questions and can be reached by calling 800.691.0952.
I am currently working in a differnt country.
My questions are:
1. Does it make sense if I send the ring despite we’re faraway to each other?
2. Which other way can I know her ring size apart from the listed ones above?
Who cares !
And now for the best answer…..her ring size is the same as her shoe size……(minus the narrow or wide). I know this sounds strange, but to my knowledge, this has always held true. So when she isn’t looking, check out one of her shoes…????
Hans…. sounds like you might have lost in love….. whether or not that’s true, don’t be so negative to the rest of us because of your experience….
I have a suggestion for all of you. How about you’ll all stop throwing your life away like that. Marriage these days is nothing but a business proposition – one that has the guy on the losing end of it. Are you really willing to do that? And then feel guilty for figuring out her ring size when you’re about to blow $50k on some carbon-based blingy stone?
My girlfreind is kind of a tomboy. She rarely ever wears jewelery other than the necklace i got her e while ago. Plus i don’t know what she’ll like. If she had a sister i would go to her, but her mom has about the same size hands… lol just because i posted this i now know what to do!
I read somewhere else that you can take a ring you know fits her and press it into a bar of soap. Take the soap to a jeweler.
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El Paso, TX. 79912
Find a pic (or take one in secret – perhaps while she’s sleeping) of her hand next to an object that can easily be measured. Then, in photoshop or some other image edit application, find the ratio between the object diameter and her finger diameter and multiply that by the diameter of the object. Once you know the diameter it’s just a simple calculation to get the circumference (pi x D). Obviously, for best results get as close as possible and use the best camera you can find.
There is one way not listed here…. Try on one of her rings. Make a mental note of where it stops on your finger. Go to a jeweler and try on sizer rings until one hits the same spot on your finger. There you go.
Why not just have one of her friends say something like hey can I borrow that ring its so pretty and being a good friend shed say yea but just give it back and BOOM you have a ring size
How about… I dunno, taking a ring she wears a lot and trace it on a piece of paper. (Inside of the circle and out)
How many of your friends know your ring size? Even better, ask the friend to take your girlfriend engagement ring shopping, REALLY? If one of your partner’s friends is engaged, ask her friend to let your girlfriend try on the ring? These are options for someone trying to buy a ring as a surprise? I have another one for you. Take your girlfriend to a wedding dress store and have her try one on, you know “for fun”. Then rent a white limo and drive her to a big church and have her walk down the isle, again just “for fun”. You see where this is going? Surprise…………………….
and did you know that the one thing that has measurements of the same between men and woman are ring szs.all you have to do too is measure your finger too and ask her to try on your ring.it will give you a ballpark figure also.