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Anniversary Bands: When to Give Them, How to Choose

Anniversary Bands: When to Give Them, How to Choose

After five or ten years of marriage (or even just one) many couples choose to celebrate their anniversaries with special rings. Anniversary rings are often bands embellished with diamonds, though there are no set rules – make sure to choose a design that fits her personal style.

Anniversary Rings by Year

Petite twisted vine diamond ring

The old-fashioned list of anniversary gifts says couples should give each other wood on their fifth anniversary, tin or aluminum on their tenth, and wait until fifty years of marriage before celebrating with gold jewelry! The modern list says that diamond jewelry should be given on your tenth anniversary. We say: buy an anniversary band whenever it feels right. To truly surprise your wife, give her a ring on an “off” anniversary (fourth or sixth or eleventh, for example). It’s certain to be a welcome surprise. That being said, guidelines can sometimes prove helpful. Here’s what we suggest:

1 Year: Gold


The first year of marriage is filled with precious memories, and the gift of something gold is a fitting way to commemorate them. For a classic first anniversary present, choose a piece of jewelry in yellow or white gold. Consider rose gold for a more distinctive look, especially popular in contemporary or vintage styles.

5 Year: Sapphire


Sapphires, which have historically symbolized truth and loyalty, are the traditional gemstones of fifth year wedding anniversaries. Available in nearly any hue, from regal blues to feminine pinks, sapphires can suit many styles. A sapphire anniversary band is a classic gift that is sure to please. Sapphire pendants and earrings are also lovely, time-honored gifts. Brilliant Earth sapphires, which are sourced from Sri Lanka, Australia, and Malawi, are an eternally popular fifth anniversary present.

10 Year: Diamonds


A ten year wedding anniversary is truly a milestone occasion, so it naturally follows that the traditional gemstones for the occasion are diamonds. Prized since antiquity for their brilliant sparkle and superior hardness, diamonds adorn many of our most sought after jewelry pieces. A diamond ring is both sentimental and beautiful, often reminiscent of the day you exchanged rings years before. Diamond earrings, whether classic studs, sophisticated drops, or glamorous hoops, are also a beautiful choice.

Choosing an Anniversary Ring

The first thing to consider is whether you want the anniversary ring to be similar in style to the wedding and engagement rings. The advantage to coordinating rings is that you can wear them together on the same finger. Often when a woman has a simple wedding band, the couple opts for an anniversary band with more embellishment.
Eternity bands, featuring diamonds or other precious gems encircling the finger, are one popular choice, or you might choose a ring  featuring the same number of diamond accents as years you’ve been married (a band with five diamond accents  for your fifth anniversary, for example).

Whisper diamond ring stack in rose gold, yellow gold, and white gold

If your wedding ring already contains precious gems, consider an anniversary band in a similar style but with different gems—the birth stones of your children perhaps?  If your rings contain different gemstones, we typically recommend wearing on different fingers for a complementary look. Or, if your wedding ring is a white gold eternity band you could choose an eternity band in rose or yellow gold as an anniversary band, for a beautiful mixed metal look. But feel free to choose an anniversary band in an entirely different style than that of your wedding and engagement rings.  If your taste has evolved in the years since you’ve been married, this is a great chance to choose a ring that reflects where you are today, style-wise.

How to Wear an Anniversary Ring

Sienna sapphire and diamond ring

Which finger should wear an anniversary ring? There’s no hard and fast rule. Some women wear the rings alongside their engagement and wedding rings, others wear the new ring on the third finger of their right hand instead of their left, and still others choose to wear the anniversary ring instead of their wedding and/or engagement rings.  Some women trade in their wedding band to put that value toward a pricier new anniversary band, while others wouldn’t consider removing the band they slipped on their fingers at their weddings.

Thinking about giving an anniversary band, or asking for one? Our jewelry experts would be happy to guide you through the process, or help you create a custom ring.

Final Thoughts

Are you shopping for an anniversary band, or hoping to receive one?  What’s your favorite style?  Let us know on Facebook or Twitter, or in the comments section! For all of Brilliant Earth’s anniversary styles, shop our Anniversary Collection and Anniversary Gift Guide!

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Comments (45)

Anna Hicks Says:
July 24th, 2019 at 9:58 am

This is my 60th anniversary and l have my second wedding ring set in white gold so do you.

Valarie C. Mann Says:
March 17th, 2019 at 2:48 pm

Love it

Katherine Jones Says:
March 15th, 2019 at 5:17 pm

I Love the jewlery…I plan on ordering something when I get ssettled in..

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March 15th, 2019 at 2:10 pm

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Katherine Babcock Says:
February 23rd, 2019 at 11:48 am

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Judy Says:
December 6th, 2018 at 7:59 am

Absolutely Beautiful though I am no longer married!

Jeff Says:
April 1st, 2018 at 4:48 pm

What about 35 years.

Cynthia Cantu Says:
February 20th, 2018 at 2:27 pm

Love the braclets

B. Earth Says:
February 19th, 2018 at 11:17 am

Hi William, you can find all of our anniversary rings here: Thanks for your interest!

William Dawson Says:
February 12th, 2018 at 4:43 pm

What is appropriate for 38th

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January 24th, 2018 at 12:56 pm

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Angela Kidwell Says:
November 20th, 2017 at 8:38 am

Our 32nd wedding anniversary will be on January 25th 2018. This will be the first anniversary that we will actually be together. We missed two anniversaries when my husband was in Afghanistan. Last year he took a promotion out of state so we missed our 31st. The house finally sold in May 2016, so I finally moved to our new home state of Mississippi! We have been remodeling our home since June 2016. Our furniture and appliances will be arriving in a couple of weeks. This will be a very special year for us! I was just 21 when we married and he was 22. I guess you could say that we took each other to raise ***
Angela Kidwell

Rita Gildon Says:
September 25th, 2017 at 4:01 pm

Stayed at a Hotel in Louisiana on vaction after going out to dinner I left my ring on the nightstand they were stolen this is my 29th year of marriage it would be great to win .

Leon G Miller Says:
September 16th, 2017 at 6:55 pm

Her wedding & engagement rings were stolen several years ago. Now i wiuld like to get her something for our 61st anniv. Coming up next June 2018.

Vita Sanders Says:
September 11th, 2017 at 3:32 pm

they all is beautiful

Terrilynn Rife Says:
September 5th, 2017 at 5:50 pm

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Terrilynn Rife Says:
September 5th, 2017 at 5:50 pm

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Natalyn Bullock Says:
September 2nd, 2017 at 2:47 pm

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Linda Dulacy Says:
August 28th, 2017 at 7:42 pm

Celebrating 50 yrs marriage. Would love to win

Linda Dulacy Says:
August 28th, 2017 at 7:40 pm

Would love to win. Our 50 year Anniversary is in Sept. 1967-2017 my original wedding/engagement rings were stolen in 1995..still heartbroken over the loss.

Robert Hamilton Says:
August 28th, 2017 at 6:32 pm

Yellow and blue. My wife adores roses.

Janet Woods Says:
August 27th, 2017 at 1:24 pm

These are all so beautiful:-)

Kathleen Delevati Says:
August 23rd, 2017 at 5:13 pm

Absolutely gorgeous..

Lucinda Says:
August 17th, 2017 at 5:24 pm

I do like to have for 35 Anniversary next year. but it’s not going to happen.

Cynthia Says:
August 8th, 2017 at 8:30 am

I would love to win our 44th aniversary..

Cynthia Says:
August 8th, 2017 at 8:28 am

I would love to win its our 44th year

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July 17th, 2017 at 12:49 pm

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Irencechen Says:
July 16th, 2017 at 7:18 pm


Keith Gohlke Says:
July 16th, 2017 at 12:45 pm

Nice rocks

July 16th, 2017 at 8:25 am


Darlene Johnson Says:
July 16th, 2017 at 5:41 am

Would like to win

Mary Franke Says:
July 12th, 2017 at 1:04 pm

Hi Alan, you can find information on our promise rings here: Thanks for your interest!

July 6th, 2017 at 7:00 pm

Please send me information on what ‘promise rings’ you have in stock


Gloria. Lyons Says:
June 30th, 2017 at 4:36 pm

Love the shine and brilliance of them all.

Gloria. Lyons Says:
June 30th, 2017 at 4:33 pm

All these jewelry are so fine,hope I can win one of them.

Kenneth Says:
June 17th, 2017 at 3:31 pm

Love rings

Helen Elwell Says:
February 28th, 2017 at 11:22 am

I have a anniversary ring husband added a diamond every anniversary have 43 diamond last one added 3 years ago because of his dead and I still wear it a lot of comments on how they like the ring

scott Says:
February 7th, 2017 at 9:30 pm

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Karen Says:
January 20th, 2017 at 4:42 pm

Last year on our 25th wedding anniversary my husband surprised me with a diamond anniversary band, which I wear on my 4th finger on my right hand! Its simple & classic looking, I love it! Now we will be celebrating our 26th in a few short days! There are no rules do what YOU want to do!! 🙂

Barbara Miller Says:
December 1st, 2016 at 6:39 am

they look like big money for diamond chips!!!!

B. Earth Says:
June 29th, 2016 at 11:38 am

Hi Marsha,

We do not offer 18K gold earrings with cubic zirconia, but you may be interested in our 18K White Gold Garnet Stud Earrings, our 18K White Gold Emerald Stud Earrings, or our 18K White Gold Akoya Pearl Earrings. Thanks for your interest!

Marsha Rosen Says:
June 29th, 2016 at 11:19 am

I can only wear 18 carat gold earrings, and I already have cubics that I can’t wear because of the 14 carat gold that they are set in. I don’t want to invest in real diamonds right now, but if you have 18 carat gold settings with cubic stones in one carat (each ear), I’d truly be interested. I loose too many earrings to invest in real diamonds. Please advice.

Pamela E. Says:
February 16th, 2016 at 11:22 am

I say “Do what you feel”! After 7 yrs of being married we have upgraded my wedding ring every other 5 to7 yrs. to a bigger ring and style. And on my 32nd Anniversary he surprised me with an Anniversary ring with 32 diamonds. But I still own my original wedding rings. Gotta Love him and I appreciate his spontaneity and his appreciation of a good looking diamond!!

MariJoy Says:
August 3rd, 2015 at 1:42 pm

For the 25th wedding anniversary, I got a gorgeous Gabriel & Co. 3-row anniversary ring…did not know how eye-popping the look of pave diamonds could be!

Brittany Says:
May 7th, 2015 at 4:08 pm

I love white Gold, but since my wedding and engagements rings were heirlooms, the white gold has faded to a yellower white gold. So I’m thinking I’ll get rose gold for my fifth anniversary to compliment the yellowing white gold.

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